No easy answer. Less sail inventory gives you less options.

Generally, I think the boat likes the biggest headsail conditions will allow, reefing the main down first.

30 kts is alot of wind, and you see higher gusts. You can be overpowered with either a 75 or 120 going to windward.

I thought this $250 storm jib was pretty reasonable.

http://cgi.ebay.com/ebaymotors/New-S...QQcmdZViewItem

Does seem small though. And you may end up with a sail that is useless for everday use. Most of these sails never see daylight

You definitely dont want to go bareheaded. Progress to weather can be very slow in waves with just the mainsail